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by Erin Nowicki

The Princess & The Beach

🏖🌊🌞🐬Going to the beach can be intense for a person with Sensory Processing Disorder. So, come with me and I’ll give you a few tips for some ways that help me enjoy my time at the beach AND come home with a smile and not a grimace. 🐬🌞🌊🏖

1. Mr. Sun

Getting burned by the sun, whether or not you have a skin disorder, is painful and uncomfortable for any person. When you have SPD, that pain is heightened and the process of healing can be brutal. The burn, the itching, the peeling: OUCH. I used to be known for getting terribly burned every single time I went to the beach. As of today, sunburn is a rare occurrence for me, but that is because I have adjusted some things.

When you get hurt, you usually don’t like the thing that hurt you, so you start to give off negative energy towards it. Even though I was applying sunscreen every hour on the dot, I still kept coming home looking like a cooked lobster. I started to fear, dislike and blame the sun for causing my pain. The pain and sunburn didn’t stop, but if you think about it…why would it? The expectation I set before going to the beach was that I was going to get burned no matter what I tried. I believe that it was one of the factors why I’d leave with that not-so-lovely cherry burn. Mindsets and words are so powerful and I was manifesting this negativity for my body….um not cool Erin.

A couple years ago, I decided that this has to stop. I started to shift that powerless mindset and I put some effort into my relationship with Mr. Sun. Instead of assuming I was going to get burned, I started to focus on my gratitude for all of the major benefits the sun gives me. The sun’s purpose is not to bring pain, but to bring life, light, and wholeness. It wasn’t the suns’s fault I was getting burned…there was so much more to it.

2. Screen Yourself

After shifting into this mindset, I started to try different types of sunscreens to see which would be a better partner to help protect my skin. I noticed that my skin would be better protected when I would wear a mineral-base sunscreen as opposed to the regular kind. I don’t like the feeling of lotion in my hands, so this definitely is my least favorite part about beach days, but it is important, hence why I use it anyways.

**Some tips for troubleshooting your own experience with sunscreen**

Make-Up Brush: If you don’t like using your hands to rub the sunscreen into your skin and don’t have someone to do it for you, try using a make-up brush instead. There are different kinds of brushes, so test out different ones to see which one works the best for your skin. This is also a “parent hack” for children who hate the sunscreen process. Give them the brush and watch how much fun they’ll have while also encouraging the lesson of self-care. Don’t forget to finish the job for them to ensure they didn’t miss a spot.

Pre-Screen: Put on your first round of sunscreen at home or in the parking lot before you get to the beach, that way you can get everything covered before sand gets in the way. I can’t stand the feeling of rubbing sunscreen on my face with sand mixed in, so if I can start my beach day off without that feeling, I’m all about it.

Lotion vs. Spray: Try different forms of sunscreen to see which one feels the best for your skin. Some sunscreens are heavy and some light, so paying attention to the different “feels” might help you figure out what you prefer the most.

Wipe Your Hands: Have some baby wipes or a hand towel to wipe your hands off after using sunscreen. Applying deep pressure while wiping your hands can help you reset quite nicely.

3. L’eau

Hydration is actually another way to help prevent sunburn. When your body is nourished and healthy, then it doesn’t have to fight so hard to protect itself from the Mother Earth’s elements. I’ve struggled with drinking water most of my life up until about 4/5 years ago. I have an amazing holistic chiropractor who did some energy work on me and helped me realize that I had too much copper in my body. Once I got treated for that, it completely shifted the way my body was responding to good ol’ H2O. All of that to say: drink your water….especially when spending time out in the hot sun.

4. Sea-Shellter

Jon and I bought a beach tent and it has rocked our world. We usually get to the beach and set up our shelter first thing, then go for a nice long walk. After a walk we come back and rest in the tent to give our skin a break from our buddy, Mr. Sun. If the sun has shifted and is shining directly on the front of the tent, we’ve come up with a solution by using a couple of chip clips to hang up colorful tapestry; that way we are in a shady spot while we get a break from those intense rays. It’s functional, fun and totally sets a chill vibe for some sweet beach hangs.

5. Sock-A-Row-Nees

My feet are the most sensitive part of my body when it comes to my SPD. Swimming in the water, walking on shells and getting covered in sand can be quite overstimulating. I’ve discovered that socks actually help me to relax a lot easier when I’m relaxing in the beach tent. The deep pressure that socks give allow my body to chill for a second and know that it’s ok. On days I have forgotten to bring them, I definitely noticed that my overall pain level was heightened and I had a harder time being able to relax.

I typically bring two pairs with me so I have one for the actual beach trip and one for the ride home. When you’re already in an environment that not only is life-giving but also overstimulating, that can be a lot for your body to process once you have to drive home. For me, having a clean pair of socks to put on right when I get into the car (sandy feet or not), has really helped ground and remind my body that I am ok. It’s really powerful what a pair of socks can do.

6. Powder Your Nose…or Toes

This one isn’t something I do as much anymore, because the sock hack has been a better fit for me, but I don’t want to leave it out because it might help you out. Get some talc free baby powder fill up a sock wit it (I used my winter socks since I live in Florida and don’t need them as much). Before you get into your car to leave the beach, grab that baby powder sock and quickly dab it onto your skin and watch as the sand magically comes off. Once you’re done, just put it in ziplock for your future beach days. **Another great parent hack!

7. I’m Misty Over You

When I get overheated, my body tends to freak out, therefore, I freak out. Jon and I have this joke that if José, the name I have for my upper lip (go ahead and judge my quirkiness for naming literally everything, including my third eye who’s name is Kiki), gets sweaty, that means I’m about to hit my code red of overheating…which is not pretty. In Florida, especially the summers, it can get boiling hot. so I’ve found something that has helped prevent a code red for me and that is having a small fan that has a misting feature on it. This not only cools me off, but it actually helps me shift my focus back to being grounded and to remind my body that I am totally fine. I also make sure to have a bandana either to wear on my head or have in my pocket, that way I can have something to take care of José.

8. No Cowboys Allowed

As a fabulous, plus-sized gal, chaffing can be a real buzzkill, while having magical beach day…especially living with SPD on top of that. I don’t want to be the one walking like a cowboy while I’m trying to enjoy a lovely day at the beach. I’ve found that bringing an extra pair of comfy shorts is wonderful. You can just slip them on before you go for that walk to hunt for those treasures that are waiting to be discovered. Another thing that I’ve done in the past, that works nicely, is using a chaffing balm. I’ve tried a few different brands but the one I felt worked the best at preventing and even soothing the chaffing is a product called For Her by Body Glide (this is not sponsored, just a personal recommendation). It goes on very light and isn’t greasy like other products I’ve used. It also doesn’t clump up which is nice, because it’s not like you want to be walking around with white clumps in between your legs. Even though it’s called “For Her” and they have a “For Him” one, it honestly can be used by any human.

Conclusion

You might have noticed this, but a lot of the “hack” that I mentioned above aren’t out of the ordinary or unusual. Most of the things I mentioned could totally be a part of every person’s beach routine. The key for me is that having these things help to alleviate extra pain and let me feel a little more relaxed, especially since the beach is one of my favorite places to be.

Do you have any personal tips that help you to enjoy your time at the beach? Leave a comment below and I’ll try it out and let you know how if it helps!

𝕤𝕥𝕒𝕪 𝕞𝕒𝕘𝕚𝕔𝕒𝕝
by Erin Nowicki

Ouch! It’s Been A Long Time…

Can you believe I haven’t posted on here since 2020…I literally think about this blog every week so I didn’t realized that it had been quite that long. 🤭 My life has changed a lot since 2020, except for the fact that I still live with SPD, so I thought I would update you a bit and share some thoughts I have on the future of this blog.

Farewell Chi-Town!

After 7 years of living up north in Chicago, Illinois, Jon, Macaroni and I decided to move to Florida, to start a new adventure. We really enjoyed living in Chicago, made life-changing relationships, and made amazing memories that will always live in our hearts. There were many factors in our decision to move, but the main reason was because of our mental health. The winters in Chi-town can be grueling and each year we could see that our mental health was getting worse and worse during those dark, cold months. With the pandemic and other major life changes on top of those long winters, it was only right for us to go somewhere new and sunny to continue our journey in this life.

Why Florida?

Jon grew up in Florida, so we initially thought we’d land in Orlando, especially since his parents and a lot of friends are there. A month and a half after living with his folks and both of us not finding jobs we wanted, Jon got a job offer as a golf instructor for a company called GOLFTEC down in St. Petersburg, Florida. The day before Thanksgiving, with the help of Jon’s parents, we loaded up a U-Haul and drove to our new apartment. That same day, I had an interview with an amazing family for a nanny position, which I accepted and have been with ever since.

The west coast has always called our names and we really wanted to try and move out that way, but the timing wasn’t right. St. Pete, also known as “Sunshine City,” has really captured both of our hearts. We live 10-15 minutes from the most beautiful beaches and 10 minutes from a really fun downtown. There are tons of outdoorsy things for us to do and it’s been a great city to live in. It has a California vibe but on a smaller level, which for right now is totally great for us.

The Blog

In the past, when I was trying to collect info and write blog posts, I kept noticing that my sensory would always be heightened..so… I just stopped writing all together. Honestly, I put so much pressure on myself to get posts out that my body would shut down. Then I’d put so much guilt on my shoulders because I was “failing” at this blog or letting the world down.

The whole purpose of this blog was to share a glimpse into my life as a person living with Sensory Processing Disorder, possibly to help others with their own SPD journey, and to help bring an awareness to people who aren’t familiar with this disorder. If that was the goal, which it 100% still is, then there doesn’t need to be any room in my brain for guilt or fear. So, as of April 23, 2023, I give myself permission to write when I want, to be guilt free, and to let the pressure dissipate. Done and done.

All of that to say: I will still be writing blog posts, but I’m not going to put any pressure on myself or body to do it with a deadline. I’m going to be “free-blogging” a.k.a. writing when I feel inspired to. When I’ve done something like this with other things in my life, I have felt more fulfilled, so it’s only natural for that to be the case this time around. As a reader, I know that you want someone who’s writing with passion, a purpose and true authenticity, not someone who’s writing to just write. So, that’s what you’re gonna get!

Your Turn

I don’t want this blog to be all about me. There is a world out there filled with others just like me…I want to hear from you! Family’s or friend’s of people with SPD, I want to hear from you! If you have any questions or are interested in wanting to know something specific, I want to hear from you!

What do you want me to write about? As a reader, what are you wanting to read? Drop a comment on this post or if you want to keep your thoughts/questions anonymous, fill out the form on my contact page.

Over and Out

Thank you for choosing to use your time to catch up with me. I hope this post finds you pursuing a healthy, whole life, because you deserve that and SO much more. Stay magical. 🦄

by Erin Nowicki

The Princess Chronicle vol. 5

Happy New Year (22 days late)! I hope all of my Unicorns had a magical holiday season and I hope you are ready for a great new year we have ahead of us.

I know I haven’t been on here in AGES, so I wanted to share with you why!

Sometimes the “Pea” wins…

Ever since I started this blog, I felt like I had the momentum, brainpower and excitement to write and share a glimpse into my SPD life. In November, after my last post, I ended up just dropping off the blogging map…but why?!

At first, I couldn’t figure out why I didn’t want to write about my SPD and why I was dreading to even think about my blog. After talking to one of my blog subscribers, I realized what the issue was.

Every week I was writing a new blog post, which meant throughout each week I was thinking of what I wanted to write about.

This in turn was causing my Sensory to actually flare up ALL THE TIME. Once I figured out that this blog was the “Pea” that was causing me to be in pain (remember, SPD revolves around the brain and the disconnect with the nervous system), I decided to take a break for a little. So, yes, I let the “Pea” win but I’m ok with it..because I’m baaaaaaack. 😀

–Game Plan–

Instead of focusing on writing one blog a week, I’m going to write multiple blogs at one time so then I can post them once a week. Less thinking time overall…so let’s see if that will help this Sensory Princess. Wish me luck! ☘

What You Missed Last Time

Do you want to know what it feels like for a person with Sensory Processing Disorder to take a shower three days in a row?

On my last blog post, I did an experiment for yall and I hope it gives some insight. Go check it out!

Imagine a sound technician working a soundboard like the one above, but he clearly has zero training.

Excerpt from The Body Is Not An Apology

If you have time, click on the link to go check out the full article where I got that excerpt. I had never heard that analogy about SPD before and it totally resounded with me because I am a musician. Let me know in the comments below what things stood out to you in the article!

Next Week’s Blog

I found a “Sensory Processing Disorder Symptoms Test for Adults” and I wanted to share my answers with you. Do you think it will tell me I have Sensory Processing Disorder? HA!

by Erin Nowicki

The Princess Chronicle vol. 4

I’m back from California! Wow, what a trip that was!! I had such a blast tagging along with Jon and his band, as well as hanging out with my in-laws.

After the tour, Jon and I were able to spend two days in Venice Beach just exploring, eating delicious food, relaxing and crossing things off our bucket lists. It was dreamy and pure magic.

Journal Entry

This last Sunday, as Jon and I were driving to church, there was a car behind playing music EXTREMELY LOUD. He had the bass cranked and oh my goodness, because of my SPD, it was hurting my ears so much.

We had to sit through two lights with this car behind is. I was starting to panic because it was hurting so badly. When I was about to break down, he actually pulled up next to us and I decided to do something about the situation.

**Now, let me set this straight- never in a million years would I have done what I did next… I honestly think because of me starting this blog and no longer being ashamed of my disorder is why I did this.**

I rolled down the window and waved him down, with a smile of course. With hand signals, I motioned for him turn down the music. —->

He turned his music down and asked what was up. So I kindly asked him if he could turn it down just a little bit because it was physically hurting me.

Honestly, I thought he wouldn’t care because it seemed like he wasn’t caring about anyone when he had his music so loud that it was affecting everyone…but he COMPLETELY surprised me!

He then responded with a sincere apology and said that he didn’t realize that it was painful. SAY WHAT!?

Sometimes people just aren’t aware of how things affect you and honestly, they might not ever be aware unless you advocate for yourself with kindness & confidence.

What You Missed Last Time

I had so much fun writing my last blog post, but if you missed it, click the link above to go check it out. I wanted to share my go-to’s when packing for an out of town trip as someone with SPD. If you have SPD, you probably have some go-to things that you bring to help ease your sensory while you are away from home. I’d love to hear from you in the comment section below!

In my packing list, you might’ve noticed that I mentioned something called “deep pressure.” The product they’ve created is pretty neat too…maybe I’ll try it someday. 😉 I wanted to send you over to an article that explains it in a good way. ⬇

Deep touch pressure refers to a form of tactile sensory input which is often provided by firm holding, firm stroking, cuddling, hugging, and squeezing.

Excerpt from Tjacket

Come back next week to read about how I attempted an experiment for my sensory and how I failed. 😀

by Erin Nowicki

Packing List- SPD Style

For someone diagnosed with Sensory Processing Disorder, going on a trip away from the comforts of home can be stressful. Now, I love to travel and I find it exhilarating, but that’s because I make sure to be prepared.

This list I’ve compiled is specific to my needs, but I bet some of them will be helpful for you:

1. Compression Socks

I would say this is the most important thing to bring. My feet are the most sensitive part on my body, so making sure I have a good pair of socks is clutch. When traveling, I never know what kind of sheets I will be sleeping on; having socks makes sure to protect my feet from any uncomfortable textures as well as giving me deep pressure. Compression socks are the best choice not only for sleeping, but they also help if I get overloaded with my sensory.

2. Superman Blanket

I get cold easily which in turn spikes my SPD so I always make sure to bring my superman blanket. I’ve had it since I was in high school (I think) and it’s gone with me all over the world. It’s a kid size blanket and the texture isn’t too bad, so it’s perfect for travel.

3. Hoodie

You never know if it’s going to rain (because rain=needles for me) or be chilly so I make sure to always bring a hoodie. Of course I bring a cute one but it also needs to be comfy. 😉

4. PJ Pants

Like I mentioned with the socks earlier, I don’t ever know ahead of time whether or not I’m going to be comfortable where I sleep. Making sure I have comfortable PJ’s at least protects my skin for the most part from uncomfortable fabrics.

5. Fingernail Clippers

If I let my fingernails grow out too long, it really triggers my sensory in my hands. I can’t stand the feeling after I take a shower and I have long fingernails. I get the chills just thinking about it now. So, before a trip, I always cut my fingernails. I still bring the clippers just in case for some reason I didn’t cut my nails well enough or if I accidentally break one. A broken fingernail is a no-no for this sensory princess.

6. Baby Wipes/Dry Shampoo

I never know what the water will feel like in the different places I travel to. If it’s too soft, I will most likely not take a shower more than once when I’m at that location. So, that’s where the baby wipes and dry shampoo come in. The wipes help keep me somewhat fresh and the dry shampoo tames the hair.

7. Shaving Cream

Shaving cream comes in really handy if I really have to take a shower and the water texture brings me a lot of pain. When I’m ready to get out of the shower, I wash my hands with the shaving cream. It helps take away the soft feeling of water or shampoo/conditioner from my hands. It’s been a lifesaver!

8. Lavender Oil

Sensory overload happens and can feel like you can’t get away from the pain. Something that I’ve adapted into my packing list the past couple years is Lavender Essential Oil by DoTerra. Lavender is a natural calming agent, so I’ll put a little on my neck and it helps remind me to take deep breaths and calm down. I won’t put it on with just my fingers because the texture of oil actually hurts my skin too, so I use a cotton swab or tissue.

Another thing this oil helps with is mosquito bites. You never know if you are going to get bit on vacay! No one likes a mosquito bite, but add a sensory disorder on top of it which makes the pain even worse. Thankfully, lavender takes away the itching which in turn takes the extra pain away too.

9. Chapstick

Traveling via car or plane, it’s inevitable that my lips will get extremely dry and chapped. If I get stressed out, I tend to pick at my lips, so chapstick is a must bring.

10. Converse

My favorite pair of shoes are my raspberry pink colored, low top Converse. When I was in high school, my mom bought me my first pair. When those died, she got me another pair. 😀 Thanks Mom!

I bring these specific shoes because they are comfortable, provide my feet with deep pressure and are reliable. If it rains, these shoes hold up very decently, which is helpful for me because I don’t particularly like my feet getting wet if I don’t have to.

Alrighty, that’s my list! I hope you enjoyed it! If you have any packing musts, please share them in a comment below! I’d love to see if any of your things would be helpful for me too! 😀

by Erin Nowicki

The Princess Chronicle vol. 3

California here I come!!

On Thursday, I will be flying out to Cali with my hunky and his band, Flatfoot 56, for a week filled with music, adventure and of course other dreamy things.

This trip is super important to me because I have been dreaming of going to California ever since I was a kid. I’m so excited to check this off my Dream List!!!

All that to say, in honor of my trip, my next post will be a fun one for yall; I’m going to do a Sensory Processing Disorder Travel Packing List. Check back next week!

Bi-Weekly Journal Entry

I went rollerskating this weekend and had a bad fall. Luckily I had my helmet on, because it would’ve been brutal. My head has been killing me and my lower back is extremely sore.

Last night, Jon put some ICY HOT on my back and let me tell you…it was SOOOOOOO painful! Not only applying it hurt, but the entire hour after putting it on hurt, because I could feel the cream on every inch of my skin. It felt like little pinches and burns all over my back. Geesh.

For the record- I love rollerskating and definitely had a blast before I fell! SPD isn’t gonna stop me from going out again this week! 😉

“I am not afraid of storms, for I am learning how to sail my ship.”

-Louisa May Alcott, Little Women

I’m currently reading Little Women and I thought this quote would be perfect for today. Sometimes, I think SPD feels like a storm… and unending one at that, but I think there are ways to help manage the storm. I want this blog to be a place for you to come when you are ready to learn how to sail your ship.

One of my dreams is to start a review section, where I review different products, coping mechanisms, and really anything that might help you (and me) to learn how to sail our ship better. The goal for this is so that YOU don’t have to endure the pain of trying something blindly. I’m willing to do this and I want to do this. I want to see the world of SPD changed for the better. If you know any entrepreneurs or companies that would want to partner with me, please send them my way!

What You Missed Last Week

With SPD, rating pain accurately can be quite difficult. Last week, I talked a little bit about how I’ve managed to go about that. I even shared my most embarrassing story, so you want to make sure to check it out! 😀

I know that blogs can be daunting for some people, but that’s why I have a Twitter account! I want everyone to be able to have access to this blog. ❤